You Have Permission to Ignore Mother’s Day

Especially if your relationship with your mom is toxic, strained, or over.

Here’s just a little bit of love to everyone out there who’s having a hard time on social media this week.

The “all moms are loving and wonderful” memes can feel a little saccharine and disingenuous to those of us who don’t share that experience.

Just so you know, whatever relationship you have with your mother is okay, even if you’ve had to draw firm boundaries, or leave the relationship altogether. No one does that lightly, and your needs and desires are as valid as the boundaries you draw to protect them.

You’re allowed to remove toxic people from your life, no matter who they are, and your family of origin is not the only family you will ever know.

There’s also no reason to believe the lie that no one will love you as well as your mother. That’s a guilt-based projection Hallmark uses to drive up their sales this month. Don’t buy into it.

Ignore the generic memes. They don’t represent the truth. If you must be on social media this month, look for the specific stories of people loving and appreciating their mothers and use them as a guide to find and deepen your relationships with your new, chosen family.

It’s possible to feel deeply, dearly loved in this world, and you don’t need to rely anyone else’s opinion of what that’s supposed to look like.

You get to choose how and by whom you want to be loved.

Business coach and writer. Lover of gluten-free waffles, reality tv, and freedom. https://instagram/diane.whiddon

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